Relatedness and Emotional Logic

The eye-opening truth is that all emotions, including the unpleasant ones, have useful relational purposes.

They help us to adjust to change constructively, and – more than that – they all gain a meaning because they have a place in one integrated process of adjusting. Knowing this process is the Logic of Emotional Logic. You can make choices about where you want to be in it. Emotion is your personal energy getting organised to do it.

Unpleasant emotions are not there just to spoil life, or as punishment for pleasure. Once understood as steps in that process of healthy adjustment to change, their energy can be harnessed.

The path to inner clarity

Emotional Logic uses the imagery of ‘emotional Stepping Stones’ to adjust, on which people balance their thoughts, feelings and awareness of the environment as they prepare for the next step, or risky leap, across a shallow river. But some people build a house on their feelings. Instead of using the emotion as a firm base from which to adjust, they block their ability to think and to move on with others. They gain a sort of identity, and perhaps notoriety, by letting the waters of their feelings swirl around them, but may lose their adaptability and their relatedness along the way. Emotional Logic gets life moving again without shame or bitterness, equipping people to make new starts that may even feel risky, but then to move on constructively with others and explore new ways of living.