A friend and colleague recently typed this question into Grammarly AI supported search engine, and out came this explanation: “Emotional Logic is a way of understanding how our emotions influence our thoughts, behaviors, and decisions. It suggests that emotions are not just irrational impulses, but rather have a logic of their own that can be…
The Kübler-Ross change curve is a linear picture of emotional processing that was developed before the New Science of the 1980s empowered people to think more about patterns of emotion processing that can transform life. The New Science model is better to help prevent traumatisation after challenging situations.
The old science made comparisons and measurements What’s important to you, and what’s important to others, shapes the world. But never exactly how you want it, or when you want it; and others may seem to have more influence than you, or more control. It takes time to shape the world, and that is where…
“The only way to God is through Jesus!” seriously is a misapprehension. And I say that as a devoted follower in the way of Jesus from Nazareth. This misquote puts off millions of well-intentioned people from discovering the depth way of life that he was teaching. It is taken out of context from a long…
Emotional Chaos Theory is an explanation of how personal insights gained by mapping the complex emotional states that people may experience during times of change, disappointment or hurt can lead to dramatic improvements in their sense of personal identity, self-respect, and wellbeing. This transformative learning process of re-engagement with life emerges as a post-traumatic growth…
Energy we know. We feel energetic or flat. We feel warmth from a fire and relax, or the cold blast of a wind in winter and tense up. Many of us have felt small electric shocks by accident, and some have been sadly tortured by them. If we call out to someone in the distance,…
Most but not all theories of how to manage traumatised people take a psychological view, that emotions and feelings are one and the same. The research paradigm for emotion has been that they arise in a linear stimulus-response process, but with no clear psychological purpose. Traumatisation, in this view, seems to be the overwhelming of…
Prince William and Kate have delightfully announced that they are going to use an ‘emotion coaching’ style of upbringing for their children. They are picking up on John Gottman’s description of mutual responsiveness, which he contrasts with three other relational attitudes towards emotional expression – disapproving, dismissing, or laissez-faire. Brilliant. I hope the royals will…
Greed is a form of Denial that in the inner heart there is grief unresolved. Greed is saying publicly, to be heard and seen, “Expand to conceal the grief that hides inside.” That is why greed feeds and feeds on others, imagining that power and control will cure the inner misery. But only purifying the…
So often, pleas for unity and cooperation spread silence rather than enthusiasm. A YouTube video of a motivational speaker showed him raise the spirits of his audience by encouraging attitudes of self-empowerment in leadership, enabling people to face challenges with confidence. Vocal affirmations across the audience brought people to their feet, until he spoke his…
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