Love
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Love

This insight is for those whose desire is to mature in love. In a sexually liberated world, people risk losing sight of the depth and radiance that is love. My story may shock the liberated on realising that a despised minority has insight that may benefit the majority, who are heading into an ecological catastrophe. Please listen beyond your first emotional reaction to make a reasoned response to the whole story later. Its location is a weekend conference…

What is Emotional Logic?

What is Emotional Logic?

A friend and colleague recently typed this question into Grammarly AI supported search engine, and out came this explanation: “Emotional Logic is a way of understanding how our emotions influence our thoughts, behaviors, and decisions. It suggests that emotions are not just irrational impulses, but rather have a logic of their own that can be…

Updating Kübler-Ross linearity for trauma care
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Updating Kübler-Ross linearity for trauma care

The Kübler-Ross change curve is a linear picture of emotional processing that was developed before the New Science of the 1980s empowered people to think more about patterns of emotion processing that can transform life. The New Science model is better to help prevent traumatisation after challenging situations.

What is Emotional Chaos Theory?
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What is Emotional Chaos Theory?

Emotional Chaos Theory is an explanation of how personal insights gained by mapping the complex emotional states that people may experience during times of change, disappointment or hurt can lead to dramatic improvements in their sense of personal identity, self-respect, and wellbeing. This transformative learning process of re-engagement with life emerges as a post-traumatic growth…

New Science Emotional Chaos Theory liberates the traumatised

New Science Emotional Chaos Theory liberates the traumatised

Most but not all theories of how to manage traumatised people take a psychological view, that emotions and feelings are one and the same. The research paradigm for emotion has been that they arise in a linear stimulus-response process, but with no clear psychological purpose. Traumatisation, in this view, seems to be the overwhelming of…

The human limbic brain is NOT reptilian… It is our human social heart

The human limbic brain is NOT reptilian… It is our human social heart

Prince William and Kate have delightfully announced that they are going to use an ‘emotion coaching’ style of upbringing for their children. They are picking up on John Gottman’s description of mutual responsiveness, which he contrasts with three other relational attitudes towards emotional expression – disapproving, dismissing, or laissez-faire. Brilliant. I hope the royals will…

Greed is a pattern of Denial of inner grief

Greed is a pattern of Denial of inner grief

Greed is a form of Denial that in the inner heart there is grief unresolved. Greed is saying publicly, to be heard and seen, “Expand to conceal the grief that hides inside.” That is why greed feeds and feeds on others, imagining that power and control will cure the inner misery. But only purifying the…

Maintaining unity involves creative grief

Maintaining unity involves creative grief

So often, pleas for unity and cooperation spread silence rather than enthusiasm. A YouTube video of a motivational speaker showed him raise the spirits of his audience by encouraging attitudes of self-empowerment in leadership, enabling people to face challenges with confidence. Vocal affirmations across the audience brought people to their feet, until he spoke his…

Emotions ‘in the now’

Emotions ‘in the now’

Feelings of illness and fatigue are not the same as the physical disease process. The disease is physical; the feelings are our information about the disease. Likewise, feelings of emotion are information about our physical emotions. Why is this an important distinction? As a medic, I understand emotions as preparation states of a person’s physical…

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